Homeschool parents can easily struggle with self-confidence. You’re going against the grain, you’re in the minority with how you want to educate, and you might have been judged hard by a family member or friend. You want to do school differently, but the pull is strong to conform a bit towards the socially acceptable expectation of doing more, performing more, and committing to more obligations. This looks different for all homeschool parents. You might fit into one or more of these categories: a.) You have so many ideas of what you want your homeschool to look like, and you want to implement them all today. Your kids are never without an activity! You always have something in your back pocket. Always! b.) You have a strong urge to keep your kids at or above grade level, at least to show others this homeschool thing is working. This means you keep that intensity up so you're never off-track with your scope and sequence for the year. c.) You are so overwhelmed that you just need someone to tell you what to do for each subject. You purchase a big box curriculum, because that company must know what they’re doing. And curriculum feels legit. d.) You’ve experienced all of the above at some point. If you answered D, SAME! We know how it feels to have all the ideas, feeling like you must keep up with other same-age kids, and feeling completely overwhelmed so you grab the nearest curriculum. Deep breaths. We’re here to say it’s okay to do less. In fact, it’s probably the most effective thing you can do for your homeschool. More does not always equal better. Intensity does not always equal high-achieving. Expensive curriculum doesn’t always equal nourishing curriculum. How do you do less? Here are some ideas to ponder. 1.Check in with yourself and your kids. What feels good? What feels like too much or too little? There’s a happy balance and it will take some time to figure out what that is for you and your family. 2.Start small. It’s much easier to add to your schedule gradually in order to find the balance. It can be a bit trickier when you’ve tipped the scales too far to the busy side. It’s harder to quit things. But you can do it if needed! 3.Write out your plan for what you’re doing now or what you plan to do and look at it. Make sure you have breaks and time for you and your kids to self-regulate, whether that’s getting exercise or vegging out with a good book, movie or music. Is there a good balance of structured vs. unstructured time for all of you? Is it logistically difficult to get from one activity to another? Do you look at your schedule with eagerness or angst? 4.Notice what time of day works best for certain activities. Does your most challenging brain work happen best in the morning? Right after lunch? Do kids need to move first thing in the morning? Do your kids need short bursts of academics in between their own interest-led learning the rest of the day? 5.Saying yes to something means saying no to something else. What are your kids interested in most? If your hockey league takes up three nights a week, and it’s a high priority, what are you willing to give up? You can’t keep up a hockey league pace all week long. We’ve said it before, and we’ll say it again, DO LESS! And see how it feels in your body, mind, and soul. Angela often says, “Look at your schedule. Then cut it in half. Then cut it in half again.” My oldest went through a phase where she would spend hours cutting patterns in fruit. Another child spent hours designing and building beautiful structures with his citiblocs. The executive functioning, the self-regulation, the empowerment, the self-confidence, and the pure joy from these valuable activities would not be possible without paring our schedule so far down, that I often grew uncomfortable. I often fought the urge to add more, push more, do more. I'm so glad I didn't! The value of your homeschool is not in how much you accomplish. It’s in how it makes everyone feel. This is where the greatest learning is possible!
